Well when I said consistency is hard I definitely wasn’t kidding. I wrote my last post on April 10th, 3 weeks ago and my poor excuse was that “I had a lot going on” and didn’t have time to write anything so here we are.
For those of you who didn’t see my 83946 photos at universal studios the last 9 days Ive been away on vacation, it was absolutely incredible and much needed. I spent my days reading, lounging by the pool getting heat rash and eating fabulous meals at Americanized chain restaurants, it was awesome. I spent most of it unplugged (minus instagram because duh) and for the first time in my life I decided I wanted to actually relax on vacation and come back feeling recharged and better than when I left. Minus the heat rash. Normally when I go on vacation I spend the entire time forcing myself to drink and complaining/dreading the fact I have to come back and face reality but this time was different. I came back excited to get into my routine and really commit to being the person I know that I want to be. (I know, I know STFU) Do not get me wrong, I absolutely love vacation I mean who doesn’t – but what I hate is whenever I would go somewhere I would basically need a vacation – from my vacation. Even up to a month after I would be home, I didn’t want to deal with real life and continuously used my going away 4 weeks ago as an excuse to eat and drink whatever I want, not workout, lay in bed and watch Netflix, etc. Basically everything that makes me feel shitty. We spend all that time getting ready to look our very best in a bikini and the moment we get back we throw it all away? It’s a cruel world.
Since idk, everyone in the entire continent of North America seems to just be getting back from vacation or about to leave, I decided what better time to pass along the info I used to come back from vacation feeling better than ever.
Step #1 Staying Present
I know I can’t shut up about staying in the moment, but there is a reason. When it comes down to it, the only thing you are absolutely guaranteed in life is right now. Nothing else and nothing more, we spend so much of our time dwelling about the past or being anxious for the future. All that does is put you in a bad mood, there is nothing you can do to change the past and no one in the world knows the future so quit worrying and start paying attention to your NOW. I mean for real, I would get on my flight so excited and immediately think “This is going to suck coming home” – like WHY. We can’t let ourselves enjoy anything anymore.
Step #2 Use The “I’m On Vacation” Excuse – But Don’t Abuse It
This one is a big one for me. I would spend a few weeks attempting to really buckle down at the gym for my vacation, I would eat as clean as I could, basically restrict myself (which is not healthy btw) and tell friends I can’t eat or do certain things because I’m going away, then the moment I stepped foot on the plane it’s like all hell broke loose. I would eat, drink, do whatever I please. Yes that’s great to allow yourself freedom but this wasn’t in a normal way. I wasn’t doing it in a way of self love or “fun”, it was more so out of a “I’m only here for 7 days so during these 7 days I’m going to eat and drink whatever I want because I can’t when I’m home” type of way. First of all, no. This restriction mind set is extremely easy to fall into and also NEVER WORKS PEOPLE.
If you restrict yourself too much, you will go on vacation, you will binge your life away for the week, and come back feeling shitty af and take weeks (maybe even months – no judgement) to get back into that healthy routine again. So let yourself live before you go, nourish your body because you want to have all that energy for when you’re there with friends or family, don’t tell yourself you can’t have 1 treat because it will make you look huge in your bikini picture, that is barbaric. Eat your treat and move on with your damn life or don’t eat the treat and get over it? Why are we letting the idea of a treat give us anxiety, it’s supposed to be a damn treat. If you find a good balance, you won’t feel like you have to fit everything you missed out on during your restriction into your 7 day vacation. The last thing we want to do after a vacation is a complete 360 lifestyle change, don’t make it so hard on yourself.
Step #3 Getting Back to Work.
This one is hard for any human being, make sure you know that. Going from laying on a beautiful beach reading a book, lounging in a swan floaty to reading 200 + emails in a cubicle is not ideal. Nobody wants to get back to their 9-5 after they go on vacation I don’t care how much you love your job, the sooner you accept that the sooner you will get over it.
I’ve recently been reading the book The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle. He basically tells you that you are not your thoughts, you are the awareness behind your thoughts. Confusing I know, I’m only halfway done the book can’t really explain it just yet. But while I was away I read a part in the book that told me that you should not be identifying with your roles, in english that means basically that you are not your job, you are not your role. Your job does not define who you are and how you choose to live your life or how you treat people it is simply just a job. “The more identified people are with their respective role, the more inauthentic the relationship becomes.” For some reason that made me feel really peaceful about going back to work, like I don’t have to take life so seriously. I don’t mean to not be professional at work, I mean that just because you are an accountant at work, doesn’t mean your entire life revolves around being an accountant, you aren’t only here to crunch numbers and audit shit you are SO much more than that I mean, there was only a 1 in 400 Trillion chance we would be alive in this very moment in this very generation on this very day, you have to be at least a little special.
Step #4 Patience, patience, patience.
Last but certainly not least: Patience, simple but not easy. It’s actually hard af. For many people that know me this is something I have to work on alllll the time. I get frustrated if I don’t have an instant result, like I’ll get home from a trip and eat clean for 3 days and get legitimately angry that nothing has changed. One thing I’ve started to realize is that things take time, and you may not see any results as quick as your bff (bitch!) but don’t get all frustrated, put the work in and do it out of a place of love and it will come, but you’ve gotta have some self discipline here, be realistic with yourself and your goals. Rome wasn’t built in a day honey.
With all that being said, my number one tip – go to bed an hour earlier tonight, get a good sleep so you can wake up and kick some ass. I truly hope this helps at least one person get back on track, I know how difficult it can be to come back to reality. But then again, if you’re that unhappy with your current reality then maybe somethings gotta change? Food for thought. 🙂